Mike, the answers to your tough questions about the "who"/"whom" usage conundrum are rather complicated and I think a quickie, off-the-cuff explanation just can't give justice to the matter. I'm at work at my definitive reply right now and I've already scheduled it for my November 21 column in The Manila Times, which of course will be posted here in the Forum on that same day. I hope you'll find it worth the wait.